Three Card Reading

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3 Card Reading
From the Enlightenment Pack by Chuck Spezzano
The 3 Card Reading uses the principle of synchronicity to select
To begin, just think of a problem you have right at the moment (and if you don't have any problems then think of something you'd like to improve in your life). Choose a problem that you'd like to clear, if not entirely then at least the next layer of it. Think about this problem
Pick a card from the negative combination suits
3 Card Reading
Card 1 - The Problem
The first card represents the Psychological dynamic which is causing the problem. Look at this hidden or undrlying issue. Take your time, see if this could possibly be true for you. If you can't see it then look at those around.
Roles (From Relationship Suite)

KEY CONCEPTS:

Living in compensation by rules and duties; doing without receiving; inauthentic helping

Adopting roles is the number one cause of burnout and the second greatest dynamic for stress. Every role ‘proves’ something about you, which is frequently the opposite of what you really believe about yourself. Where there is any difficulty in your life, it is a sign you are living your life in roles, rather than with true contact, communication or authenticity.

Under every role there are feelings of guilt, sacrifice, weariness and being stuck. Underneath these are feelings of failure. And buried beneath all of these are death temptations. Deadness in one’s life is a sure sign that roles are present. The deadness is created because there is only ‘doing’, and no giving bf oneself. So, there’s no receiving or refreshment.

Roles are a defense we use to protect ourselves from feelings of heartbreak, guilt, failure and even the overwhelming feeling we will die from pain. Thus a role is a compensation for mistaken beliefs about ourselves which are painful or problematic. So we present ourselves in a way which is opposite to these beliefs, and which gains the approval of significant others. Initially, we give up who we really are to a mistaken belief, and then to being ‘good’ (or in some cases, ‘bad’) and, finally, to being ‘useful’, ‘practical’ or ‘hard workers’. The problem is that you don’t receive the rewards for any of this; that goes to the role itself, to the proving that you are a ‘good’ person. We don’t receive because, in the doing, then is no true giving of oneself. Thus we close down our horizons and swiftly lose our energy, reaching places of feeling old, worn out and exhausted. This, in turn, leads to burnout. A role is doing the right thing, but for the wrong reason. It is like wearing a suit of armor which is meant to protect us, but which actually also blocks any nourishment from reaching us.

Everyone has roles. The three major ones are dependence, independence and sacrifice, and from these spring all the others. A role is based on grievances and feelings that someone ‘didn’t do it right’ by you. A role can be a reasonable facsimile of success, but without the inner substance. This is why someone caught in a role feels like a fraud.

Using the card
If you receive the Roles card today, you are being asked to look at areas where you are doing things by recipe, or because you are ‘supposed to’, rather than by choice. Every choice you make allows you to give yourself, and thus to receive. You are being asked to live your life with commitment and truth, to deal yourself back into the game of life. With roles (for the most part) you deal everyone else a winning hand, but don’t even deal yourself into the game. Forgiveness is another way which would free you from the compensation which produces no reward. A role becomes a block against grace reaching you. Commitment, or giving yourself fully, would resolve this.

Flipping the card
This is one of the Enlightenment Cards that can be interpreted in a different way if it is flipped. If you get this card in a reading, flip it in the air (flick it between your thumb and middle finger). If it lands face down, you are being signaled that there is some type of family role you are caught in. Typically, this would have begun for you as a child and has since been carried into your relationships and into the rest of your life. There are five major family roles: the hero, the martyr, the scapegoat, the lost child and the mascot. The hero, martyr and scapegoat are all compensations for feeling guilty. Adopting the hero role is an attempt to do the very best, to shine the brightest and to be the star in order to compensate for guilt and to save the family. Martyrs lay themselves down in sacrifice in their attempt to save the family (this can lead to illness, injury, sexual abuse or even death). Scapegoats try to help the family by getting into trouble and taking all the negativity on to themselves. The family member playing this role would be the one everyone considers the family’s ‘problem person’, ‘bad guy’ or ‘black sheep’. If a family’s troubles are deep enough, the scapegoat might even get into trouble with the law, which is actually an attempt to call in outside help for the family. The lost child and mascot (also known as the clown, entertainer or charmer) are family roles which are based on compensations for feelings of inadequacy. The lost child tries to become invisible. He or she thinks that the best gift they can give the family is to disappear, literally or figuratively. The mascot always keeps the family entertained, and is the one everyone in the family always loves. However, the mascot rarely feels loved for her or himself, but rather for playing this role and keeping the family entertained. The more a family is exaggerated into its roles, the more trouble it is in, and the more dysfunctional it will be. As with the more general roles discussed above, family roles are patterns of giving with out being able to receive.

If you receive the Family Roles card, examine which of these roles seems to be stopping you now. In truth you will have played all of them, though you may not recognize this at first. You could either put the five family roles on different pieces of paper and pick one (too see the one your subconscious mind selects) or you may already be aware of the one which applies to you.

Our roles are recipes for living which stop our responsiveness and the giving or receiving of our support. Ask today to be shown the truth, so as to live authentically, happily, with ease and freedom - all sure signs that you are not living your life in roles.

Pick a card from the Healing Suite (Green Card)
3 Card Reading
Card 2 - The Way Through
This step is the healing path, the answer, the way through. If there's an
Letting Go (From Healing Suite)

KEY CONCEPTS:

Releasing past loss and needs; coming into a present perspective; opening to the next step

If forgiveness is the hardest lesson to learn on one’s own, then letting go is the second hardest. Of course, all of this can be accomplished easily through grace and your Higher Mind, if you are willing to change, find the way out and succeed.

Letting go heals holding on, expectations, stress and perfectionism, all of which are based on some picture of, or demand for, how things, others and yourself should be. These demands are your idea for what would meet your needs. This constantly leads to disappointment or frustration, because no matter how well you have ‘written’ your script for happiness, it will not succeed with demands or needs. Needs secretly push away what they are trying to get, and demands repel and create resistance or sacrifice. You can evaluate the success of your script by looking at how happy you have been in your life. If it has only been some what successful for you, why would you impose it on someone else through expectations and demands?

Letting go of the past allows new goals and directions to appear. You cannot win if you hold on and demand that life return to a past which did not fully satisfy you before. With letting go, the past in not lost or thrown away, but is simply put into perspective. It allows you to live in the present once again. Letting go releases the judgment, grievance, guilt, loss, need and fear which lurk beneath every holding on. Choosing this allows your attractiveness to reemerge and also allows your life to unfold and improve. You can then take the next step, which brings new possibility and a truer life.

Using the card
If you receive this card, look for what person (or which aspects or qualities of a person), situation or past event you are holding on to which is stopping present success. Letting go is accomplished by feeling all the painful feelings until they are gone, or by giving your Higher Mind what you are holding on to and asking your Higher Mind to do it for you. Letting go allows the mourning process for past loss to be completed in the present. Once you realize that holding on will not work, your choosing to let go is at the heart of the letting-go process. For instance, holding on after a relationship is over effectively ensures there will be no present or future in that relationship. But, letting go provides an attractiveness and invitation to carry on the relationship, or to have a new relationship - at a higher level. If you receive this card, you are asked to recognize what you think you need, and to let go of it so that you can succeed.

Pick a card from the Gift and Grace
3 Card Reading
Card 3 - The Gift
Don't forget to receive your Gift... it's the very thing that this problem has
Peace (From Gift Suite)

KEY CONCEPTS:

The nature of Heaven and active basis from, which all good things generate

Peace is simply the state of being without conflict. It is being centered. It is responsive, both to yourself and to those around you. All happiness, love and abundance generate from peace. Peace is the nature of the Kingdom of Heaven. Rather than being boring or comatose, peace is actually an exciting and enlivening experience, full of grace, enjoyment and connection. It is an awakened and highly thrilling state. It is from peace that one can truly give and receive.

Using the card
Receiving this card today is a signal that you can be filled with peace of mind. This is the resolution to any problem, because it brings a peace which surpasses understanding. Peace allows for all good things. It is the beginning of health, abundance and love. Today let yourself be filled with peace, knowing that peace transcends all fear, separation and problems.

3 Card Reading
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Roles (From Relationship Suite)

KEY CONCEPTS:

Living in compensation by rules and duties; doing without receiving; inauthentic helping

Adopting roles is the number one cause of burnout and the second greatest dynamic for stress. Every role ‘proves’ something about you, which is frequently the opposite of what you really believe about yourself. Where there is any difficulty in your life, it is a sign you are living your life in roles, rather than with true contact, communication or authenticity.

Under every role there are feelings of guilt, sacrifice, weariness and being stuck. Underneath these are feelings of failure. And buried beneath all of these are death temptations. Deadness in one’s life is a sure sign that roles are present. The deadness is created because there is only ‘doing’, and no giving bf oneself. So, there’s no receiving or refreshment.

Roles are a defense we use to protect ourselves from feelings of heartbreak, guilt, failure and even the overwhelming feeling we will die from pain. Thus a role is a compensation for mistaken beliefs about ourselves which are painful or problematic. So we present ourselves in a way which is opposite to these beliefs, and which gains the approval of significant others. Initially, we give up who we really are to a mistaken belief, and then to being ‘good’ (or in some cases, ‘bad’) and, finally, to being ‘useful’, ‘practical’ or ‘hard workers’. The problem is that you don’t receive the rewards for any of this; that goes to the role itself, to the proving that you are a ‘good’ person. We don’t receive because, in the doing, then is no true giving of oneself. Thus we close down our horizons and swiftly lose our energy, reaching places of feeling old, worn out and exhausted. This, in turn, leads to burnout. A role is doing the right thing, but for the wrong reason. It is like wearing a suit of armor which is meant to protect us, but which actually also blocks any nourishment from reaching us.

Everyone has roles. The three major ones are dependence, independence and sacrifice, and from these spring all the others. A role is based on grievances and feelings that someone ‘didn’t do it right’ by you. A role can be a reasonable facsimile of success, but without the inner substance. This is why someone caught in a role feels like a fraud.

Using the card
If you receive the Roles card today, you are being asked to look at areas where you are doing things by recipe, or because you are ‘supposed to’, rather than by choice. Every choice you make allows you to give yourself, and thus to receive. You are being asked to live your life with commitment and truth, to deal yourself back into the game of life. With roles (for the most part) you deal everyone else a winning hand, but don’t even deal yourself into the game. Forgiveness is another way which would free you from the compensation which produces no reward. A role becomes a block against grace reaching you. Commitment, or giving yourself fully, would resolve this.

Flipping the card
This is one of the Enlightenment Cards that can be interpreted in a different way if it is flipped. If you get this card in a reading, flip it in the air (flick it between your thumb and middle finger). If it lands face down, you are being signaled that there is some type of family role you are caught in. Typically, this would have begun for you as a child and has since been carried into your relationships and into the rest of your life. There are five major family roles: the hero, the martyr, the scapegoat, the lost child and the mascot. The hero, martyr and scapegoat are all compensations for feeling guilty. Adopting the hero role is an attempt to do the very best, to shine the brightest and to be the star in order to compensate for guilt and to save the family. Martyrs lay themselves down in sacrifice in their attempt to save the family (this can lead to illness, injury, sexual abuse or even death). Scapegoats try to help the family by getting into trouble and taking all the negativity on to themselves. The family member playing this role would be the one everyone considers the family’s ‘problem person’, ‘bad guy’ or ‘black sheep’. If a family’s troubles are deep enough, the scapegoat might even get into trouble with the law, which is actually an attempt to call in outside help for the family. The lost child and mascot (also known as the clown, entertainer or charmer) are family roles which are based on compensations for feelings of inadequacy. The lost child tries to become invisible. He or she thinks that the best gift they can give the family is to disappear, literally or figuratively. The mascot always keeps the family entertained, and is the one everyone in the family always loves. However, the mascot rarely feels loved for her or himself, but rather for playing this role and keeping the family entertained. The more a family is exaggerated into its roles, the more trouble it is in, and the more dysfunctional it will be. As with the more general roles discussed above, family roles are patterns of giving with out being able to receive.

If you receive the Family Roles card, examine which of these roles seems to be stopping you now. In truth you will have played all of them, though you may not recognize this at first. You could either put the five family roles on different pieces of paper and pick one (too see the one your subconscious mind selects) or you may already be aware of the one which applies to you.

Our roles are recipes for living which stop our responsiveness and the giving or receiving of our support. Ask today to be shown the truth, so as to live authentically, happily, with ease and freedom - all sure signs that you are not living your life in roles.

Letting Go (From Healing Suite)

KEY CONCEPTS:

Releasing past loss and needs; coming into a present perspective; opening to the next step

If forgiveness is the hardest lesson to learn on one’s own, then letting go is the second hardest. Of course, all of this can be accomplished easily through grace and your Higher Mind, if you are willing to change, find the way out and succeed.

Letting go heals holding on, expectations, stress and perfectionism, all of which are based on some picture of, or demand for, how things, others and yourself should be. These demands are your idea for what would meet your needs. This constantly leads to disappointment or frustration, because no matter how well you have ‘written’ your script for happiness, it will not succeed with demands or needs. Needs secretly push away what they are trying to get, and demands repel and create resistance or sacrifice. You can evaluate the success of your script by looking at how happy you have been in your life. If it has only been some what successful for you, why would you impose it on someone else through expectations and demands?

Letting go of the past allows new goals and directions to appear. You cannot win if you hold on and demand that life return to a past which did not fully satisfy you before. With letting go, the past in not lost or thrown away, but is simply put into perspective. It allows you to live in the present once again. Letting go releases the judgment, grievance, guilt, loss, need and fear which lurk beneath every holding on. Choosing this allows your attractiveness to reemerge and also allows your life to unfold and improve. You can then take the next step, which brings new possibility and a truer life.

Using the card
If you receive this card, look for what person (or which aspects or qualities of a person), situation or past event you are holding on to which is stopping present success. Letting go is accomplished by feeling all the painful feelings until they are gone, or by giving your Higher Mind what you are holding on to and asking your Higher Mind to do it for you. Letting go allows the mourning process for past loss to be completed in the present. Once you realize that holding on will not work, your choosing to let go is at the heart of the letting-go process. For instance, holding on after a relationship is over effectively ensures there will be no present or future in that relationship. But, letting go provides an attractiveness and invitation to carry on the relationship, or to have a new relationship - at a higher level. If you receive this card, you are asked to recognize what you think you need, and to let go of it so that you can succeed.

Peace (From Gift Suite)

KEY CONCEPTS:

The nature of Heaven and active basis from, which all good things generate

Peace is simply the state of being without conflict. It is being centered. It is responsive, both to yourself and to those around you. All happiness, love and abundance generate from peace. Peace is the nature of the Kingdom of Heaven. Rather than being boring or comatose, peace is actually an exciting and enlivening experience, full of grace, enjoyment and connection. It is an awakened and highly thrilling state. It is from peace that one can truly give and receive.

Using the card
Receiving this card today is a signal that you can be filled with peace of mind. This is the resolution to any problem, because it brings a peace which surpasses understanding. Peace allows for all good things. It is the beginning of health, abundance and love. Today let yourself be filled with peace, knowing that peace transcends all fear, separation and problems.

Problem
Roles
(From Relationship Suite)
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The Way Through
Letting Go
(From Healing Suite)
Review
Gift
Peace
(From Gift Suite)
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