Three Card Reading

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3 Card Reading
From the Enlightenment Pack by Chuck Spezzano
The 3 Card Reading uses the principle of synchronicity to select
To begin, just think of a problem you have right at the moment (and if you don't have any problems then think of something you'd like to improve in your life). Choose a problem that you'd like to clear, if not entirely then at least the next layer of it. Think about this problem
Pick a card from the negative combination suits
3 Card Reading
Card 1 - The Problem
The first card represents the Psychological dynamic which is causing the problem. Look at this hidden or undrlying issue. Take your time, see if this could possibly be true for you. If you can't see it then look at those around.
Sacrifice (From Relationship Suite)

KEY CONCEPTS:

Compensation to pay off guilt; giving without receiving; hidden competition; fear of intimacy

Sacrifice is based on a belief that we are unworthy, stemming directly from guilt. It is an act in which we go into a form of slavery, because we have stopped loving ourselves. So we give, but do not receive, and soon run out of energy. This leads to exhaustion and burnout. Sacrifice is a fundamental defense against a loss we have suffered, but never recovered from. So our defense against these feelings is to help others as a form of avoidance, so that we do not have to deal with our own pain.

It is also about our anger toward others for failing us, and the belief we now have to perform their roles. In reality, however, underneath this anger we believe we have failed them. Sacrifice, then, is an attempt to pay off this illusory guilt. This dynamic, which begins in childhood, is at the heart of what creates the family patterns we have carried into our present relationships, and into our way of being in the world. In fact, most sacrifice is generated out of family patterns. One may be in sacrifice to try to save the family (the martyr role). But this never helps, because we are really using the family to hold ourselves back. This type of ‘untrue helping’ becomes a form of enabling, which is based on a secret fear of the one(s) being helped getting better. That would mean the ‘untrue helper; would also then be called to move forward. So sacrifice becomes a defense against intimacy and against taking the next step.

When you are in sacrifice, you are ‘in fusion’ with another, not knowing the boundaries between yourself and the ones to whom you are enslaved. Within this fused relationship, you either place yourself above the other - in the sense that you feel you have to carry them - or you put yourself below them, in that you feel you have to give up your own life in order to receive love and approval. In either case, anyone in sacrifice is afraid of having an equal relationship and afraid of intimacy. Whether you are seemingly above or below the other, there is a hidden judgment of the person you are sacrificing for. If you see yourself above the other, you feel superior; if you see yourself below them, you feel morally superior. So sacrifice actually feeds competition, which in turn, generates divisiveness, separation and fear.

Using the card
If you receive this card today, you are being asked to examine areas where you are not receiving, as this is a sure sign you are in sacrifice in some way. The insidiousness of sacrifice makes everything difficult and burdensome, partly because, typically, we sacrifice out of our love for another, while devaluing ourselves. This makes us less attractive in both our own and the other’s eyes.

Who is it you are in sacrifice to? What burden are you carrying that does not belong to you and which you are using as a form of avoidance, especially of intimacy? Sacrifice is a way of avoiding the contact which leads to success. In sacrifice you can work very hard and do lots of things, but, because you don’t give yourself, you don’t succeed. Today, you are asked to be true to yourself. As Polonius says in Shakespeare's Hamlet, ‘To thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man.’ As you free yourself, you will free others. As you live truly, others, too, can then live truly and authentically.

Pick a card from the Healing Suite (Green Card)
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Card 2 - The Way Through
This step is the healing path, the answer, the way through. If there's an
Joining (From Healing Suite)

KEY CONCEPTS:

Re-establishing contact; partnership; achieving a ‘win-win’ situation; finding the one solution

Joining heals separation — and there is no problem which does not have separation as one of its core dynamics. It is only in contact that you are successful, whereas withdrawal leads to a lack of success, which means some grievance or pain (hidden or otherwise) has backed you away from life. The extent to which you are backed away is the extent to which you are in sacrifice — giving without receiving. Joining brings you out of withdrawal, lack of success, guilt, unworthiness, fear and pain, so you can once again establish contact with the world.

In the reconnection, which is an act of love which extents you, you will realize the connection was the truth. In truth, this connection was never lost or could it be. It is only our unawareness of Oneness which keeps us in pain. In every act of commitment, giving, integrating, forgiving, receiving, trust, and so on, we create a joining, and heal ourselves. Joining establishes a mutuality which brings about the next step. It avoids power struggle and finds the solution. It releases you from the prison where you have been stuck. By your mutual support with another, partnership and success are assured.

Using the card
If you receive this card, you are asked to make ending the separation a priority and join the other person in the situation. Make them more important than your grievances and hidden guilt, your judgment and hidden sense of failure, your fear and your pain — all of which cover the distance between you and that person. Call them, write to them, visit them, or, if that is not possible, imagine yourself walking the metaphoric distance between you and them until you join. Each step toward them is actually a step out of inner defeat and into a place of partnership and winning together. Joining lets you know that you are truly not alone, and that there is always one solution – no matter what the problem.

Pick a card from the Gift and Grace
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Card 3 - The Gift
Don't forget to receive your Gift... it's the very thing that this problem has
Freedom (From Gift Suite)

KEY CONCEPTS:

Principle coming from commitment and truth, allowing for happiness and giving yourself fully

Freedom is actually a healing concept which is a derivative of both commitment and truth. To receive it as a gift card means that freedom will be gifted to you in someway, that something which has kept you in chains will fall away. Today, something is moving out of your way and out of your life to give you a new breathing space, an new clarity and a new openness. You have given of yourself, and now the gift of freedom is coming to you. This means the stress, worries, burdens, troubles, misery and sacrifice and all fall away. As you allow yourself freedom, it demonstrates your own self-love. As you give others freedom, it demonstrates your love for them.

Using the card
If you receive this card today, do not be deceived by any traps. Be careful not to confuse freedom with the rebellion of independence — that is actually dissociation ( not wanting to be dependent on anyone) and is only a guise for freedom. Something which has stopped you is about to fall away. Celebrate its departure. Freedom will bring about true connection and true responsiveness, rather than ‘burdensomeness’. It is available and being offered to you today, to let you know of life’s sweetness. True freedom allows you to give yourself fully, because in doing so, you feel both free and focused. If connection and communication are the true state of being, it follows that freedom allows us to see our relationships with both things and people in a way which gives everyone liberty. Your freedom allows for happiness… and happiness takes no prisoners.

3 Card Reading
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Sacrifice (From Relationship Suite)

KEY CONCEPTS:

Compensation to pay off guilt; giving without receiving; hidden competition; fear of intimacy

Sacrifice is based on a belief that we are unworthy, stemming directly from guilt. It is an act in which we go into a form of slavery, because we have stopped loving ourselves. So we give, but do not receive, and soon run out of energy. This leads to exhaustion and burnout. Sacrifice is a fundamental defense against a loss we have suffered, but never recovered from. So our defense against these feelings is to help others as a form of avoidance, so that we do not have to deal with our own pain.

It is also about our anger toward others for failing us, and the belief we now have to perform their roles. In reality, however, underneath this anger we believe we have failed them. Sacrifice, then, is an attempt to pay off this illusory guilt. This dynamic, which begins in childhood, is at the heart of what creates the family patterns we have carried into our present relationships, and into our way of being in the world. In fact, most sacrifice is generated out of family patterns. One may be in sacrifice to try to save the family (the martyr role). But this never helps, because we are really using the family to hold ourselves back. This type of ‘untrue helping’ becomes a form of enabling, which is based on a secret fear of the one(s) being helped getting better. That would mean the ‘untrue helper; would also then be called to move forward. So sacrifice becomes a defense against intimacy and against taking the next step.

When you are in sacrifice, you are ‘in fusion’ with another, not knowing the boundaries between yourself and the ones to whom you are enslaved. Within this fused relationship, you either place yourself above the other - in the sense that you feel you have to carry them - or you put yourself below them, in that you feel you have to give up your own life in order to receive love and approval. In either case, anyone in sacrifice is afraid of having an equal relationship and afraid of intimacy. Whether you are seemingly above or below the other, there is a hidden judgment of the person you are sacrificing for. If you see yourself above the other, you feel superior; if you see yourself below them, you feel morally superior. So sacrifice actually feeds competition, which in turn, generates divisiveness, separation and fear.

Using the card
If you receive this card today, you are being asked to examine areas where you are not receiving, as this is a sure sign you are in sacrifice in some way. The insidiousness of sacrifice makes everything difficult and burdensome, partly because, typically, we sacrifice out of our love for another, while devaluing ourselves. This makes us less attractive in both our own and the other’s eyes.

Who is it you are in sacrifice to? What burden are you carrying that does not belong to you and which you are using as a form of avoidance, especially of intimacy? Sacrifice is a way of avoiding the contact which leads to success. In sacrifice you can work very hard and do lots of things, but, because you don’t give yourself, you don’t succeed. Today, you are asked to be true to yourself. As Polonius says in Shakespeare's Hamlet, ‘To thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man.’ As you free yourself, you will free others. As you live truly, others, too, can then live truly and authentically.

Joining (From Healing Suite)

KEY CONCEPTS:

Re-establishing contact; partnership; achieving a ‘win-win’ situation; finding the one solution

Joining heals separation — and there is no problem which does not have separation as one of its core dynamics. It is only in contact that you are successful, whereas withdrawal leads to a lack of success, which means some grievance or pain (hidden or otherwise) has backed you away from life. The extent to which you are backed away is the extent to which you are in sacrifice — giving without receiving. Joining brings you out of withdrawal, lack of success, guilt, unworthiness, fear and pain, so you can once again establish contact with the world.

In the reconnection, which is an act of love which extents you, you will realize the connection was the truth. In truth, this connection was never lost or could it be. It is only our unawareness of Oneness which keeps us in pain. In every act of commitment, giving, integrating, forgiving, receiving, trust, and so on, we create a joining, and heal ourselves. Joining establishes a mutuality which brings about the next step. It avoids power struggle and finds the solution. It releases you from the prison where you have been stuck. By your mutual support with another, partnership and success are assured.

Using the card
If you receive this card, you are asked to make ending the separation a priority and join the other person in the situation. Make them more important than your grievances and hidden guilt, your judgment and hidden sense of failure, your fear and your pain — all of which cover the distance between you and that person. Call them, write to them, visit them, or, if that is not possible, imagine yourself walking the metaphoric distance between you and them until you join. Each step toward them is actually a step out of inner defeat and into a place of partnership and winning together. Joining lets you know that you are truly not alone, and that there is always one solution – no matter what the problem.

Freedom (From Gift Suite)

KEY CONCEPTS:

Principle coming from commitment and truth, allowing for happiness and giving yourself fully

Freedom is actually a healing concept which is a derivative of both commitment and truth. To receive it as a gift card means that freedom will be gifted to you in someway, that something which has kept you in chains will fall away. Today, something is moving out of your way and out of your life to give you a new breathing space, an new clarity and a new openness. You have given of yourself, and now the gift of freedom is coming to you. This means the stress, worries, burdens, troubles, misery and sacrifice and all fall away. As you allow yourself freedom, it demonstrates your own self-love. As you give others freedom, it demonstrates your love for them.

Using the card
If you receive this card today, do not be deceived by any traps. Be careful not to confuse freedom with the rebellion of independence — that is actually dissociation ( not wanting to be dependent on anyone) and is only a guise for freedom. Something which has stopped you is about to fall away. Celebrate its departure. Freedom will bring about true connection and true responsiveness, rather than ‘burdensomeness’. It is available and being offered to you today, to let you know of life’s sweetness. True freedom allows you to give yourself fully, because in doing so, you feel both free and focused. If connection and communication are the true state of being, it follows that freedom allows us to see our relationships with both things and people in a way which gives everyone liberty. Your freedom allows for happiness… and happiness takes no prisoners.

Problem
Sacrifice
(From Relationship Suite)
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The Way Through
Joining
(From Healing Suite)
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Gift
Freedom
(From Gift Suite)
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