Three Card Reading

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3 Card Reading
From the Enlightenment Pack by Chuck Spezzano
The 3 Card Reading uses the principle of synchronicity to select
To begin, just think of a problem you have right at the moment (and if you don't have any problems then think of something you'd like to improve in your life). Choose a problem that you'd like to clear, if not entirely then at least the next layer of it. Think about this problem
Pick a card from the negative combination suits
3 Card Reading
Card 1 - The Problem
The first card represents the Psychological dynamic which is causing the problem. Look at this hidden or undrlying issue. Take your time, see if this could possibly be true for you. If you can't see it then look at those around.
Sacrifice (From Relationship Suite)

KEY CONCEPTS:

Compensation to pay off guilt; giving without receiving; hidden competition; fear of intimacy

Sacrifice is based on a belief that we are unworthy, stemming directly from guilt. It is an act in which we go into a form of slavery, because we have stopped loving ourselves. So we give, but do not receive, and soon run out of energy. This leads to exhaustion and burnout. Sacrifice is a fundamental defense against a loss we have suffered, but never recovered from. So our defense against these feelings is to help others as a form of avoidance, so that we do not have to deal with our own pain.

It is also about our anger toward others for failing us, and the belief we now have to perform their roles. In reality, however, underneath this anger we believe we have failed them. Sacrifice, then, is an attempt to pay off this illusory guilt. This dynamic, which begins in childhood, is at the heart of what creates the family patterns we have carried into our present relationships, and into our way of being in the world. In fact, most sacrifice is generated out of family patterns. One may be in sacrifice to try to save the family (the martyr role). But this never helps, because we are really using the family to hold ourselves back. This type of ‘untrue helping’ becomes a form of enabling, which is based on a secret fear of the one(s) being helped getting better. That would mean the ‘untrue helper; would also then be called to move forward. So sacrifice becomes a defense against intimacy and against taking the next step.

When you are in sacrifice, you are ‘in fusion’ with another, not knowing the boundaries between yourself and the ones to whom you are enslaved. Within this fused relationship, you either place yourself above the other - in the sense that you feel you have to carry them - or you put yourself below them, in that you feel you have to give up your own life in order to receive love and approval. In either case, anyone in sacrifice is afraid of having an equal relationship and afraid of intimacy. Whether you are seemingly above or below the other, there is a hidden judgment of the person you are sacrificing for. If you see yourself above the other, you feel superior; if you see yourself below them, you feel morally superior. So sacrifice actually feeds competition, which in turn, generates divisiveness, separation and fear.

Using the card
If you receive this card today, you are being asked to examine areas where you are not receiving, as this is a sure sign you are in sacrifice in some way. The insidiousness of sacrifice makes everything difficult and burdensome, partly because, typically, we sacrifice out of our love for another, while devaluing ourselves. This makes us less attractive in both our own and the other’s eyes.

Who is it you are in sacrifice to? What burden are you carrying that does not belong to you and which you are using as a form of avoidance, especially of intimacy? Sacrifice is a way of avoiding the contact which leads to success. In sacrifice you can work very hard and do lots of things, but, because you don’t give yourself, you don’t succeed. Today, you are asked to be true to yourself. As Polonius says in Shakespeare's Hamlet, ‘To thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man.’ As you free yourself, you will free others. As you live truly, others, too, can then live truly and authentically.

Pick a card from the Healing Suite (Green Card)
3 Card Reading
Card 2 - The Way Through
This step is the healing path, the answer, the way through. If there's an
Forgiveness (From Healing Suite)

KEY CONCEPTS:

Resolving hidden guilt in oneself; apologizing for mistaken blame; reconnecting; true understanding; giving forth

This is another core healing principle: forgiveness is really self-forgiveness. If the world is simply a reflection of your own mind, if all blame and judgment are projections of your own guilt and self-attack, then forgiveness of others releases both the others and the subconscious guilt within you. Guilt is really a form of arrogance which makes life all about oneself, rather than just learning the lesson, correcting the mistake and moving on. Forgiveness puts things in perspective and brings back innocence. It returns life to ease, flow and confidence.

Forgiveness is not a form of winning the competition while another fails. Nor is it about condescension or superiority. It is not designing to grant the other mercy - which is really superiority (hidden judgment and overcompensation for guilt and feelings of inadequacy) and competition (distraction from success and fear of the next step). We fear forgiveness because we feel that we would be locked into a position of sacrifice or wounding. We feel that we are justified in our grievance or anger and that it would be stupid to give this up. Yet grievances are never about what someone else has done but in fact are about what we have not forgiven ourselves for. We are actually holding our past against them. No situation can fail unless we fail to give something. Forgiveness is simply reconnection. It is an apology for blaming others for ‘crimes’ you thought that you had committed. Forgiveness is the realization that it was all just a mistake, and true understanding and a new healed situation appear. In forgiveness you finally get to give what was not given in the past. This heals you and the one being judged.

One of the core dynamics of any problem is broken bonding, or separation. Guilt is the superglue of life which keeps us stuck in painful patterns and situations, while forgiveness is the solvent which releases us not only from our guilt, but also from our withdrawal, unworthiness and sacrifice, and from the feelings of deadness, exhaustion, difficulty, being stuck, valuelessness and overcompensation. As we are released from that which separates us, we are reconnected and the problem is solved.

Using the card
If you receive this card today, understand that it is important to motivate yourself to forgive, because what you don’t forgive in any one person, you don’t forgive in everyone, including yourself. This means that, without forgiveness, you will create distance - even with those you love the most. The power to change your situation is in your hands. Forgiveness is a choice which creates a new giving forth and a new receiving. Release your grievances so the hidden self-attack and lack of freedom will be released. If done by oneself, forgiveness is a difficult lesson, and self-forgiveness can be even harder. But you can ask your Higher Mind for help in accomplishing the forgiveness.

While there are many beautiful forgiveness exercises, you could just as easily let it be done by grace. Realize that if you are blaming yourself or others the truth is being blurred. Choose the truth. Ask to know it. Ask for the forgiveness to occur. This may happen layer by layer, or it may occur all at once. In other words, you can ask for a miracle and the whole situation can be seen in a new light.

Pick a card from the Gift and Grace
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Card 3 - The Gift
Don't forget to receive your Gift... it's the very thing that this problem has
Innocence (From Gift Suite)

KEY CONCEPTS:

The healing recognition of your own and other’ spirituality and perfection

The grace of innocence heals the illusion of guilt, thus removing the key cause of suffering and cruelty from the world. Where there is innocence, people act innocently, responsively and with awareness. This card, like the other Grace cards, can literally bring Heaven to earth, because, in recognizing our own innocence, we see others’ innocence. Thus we see all troubles merely as calls for help and love. Innocence cleanses and refreshes the world. Through it, we allow ourselves both to receive and to give, knowing that life is full of love, abundance and beauty.

Using the card
If you receive this card today, you are asked to look at yourself through God’s eyes (whatever you understand Him to be). God, being perfect, sees only our Spirit and perfection, yet allows our Higher Mind to help correct and heal our mistakes. You are asked to let yourself be freed by innocence today, and to let those around you be freed by it also. The grace of innocence is trying to come to you today, if only you would let it… to free yourself and the world from judgment and suffering. Innocence is the way through.

3 Card Reading
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Sacrifice (From Relationship Suite)

KEY CONCEPTS:

Compensation to pay off guilt; giving without receiving; hidden competition; fear of intimacy

Sacrifice is based on a belief that we are unworthy, stemming directly from guilt. It is an act in which we go into a form of slavery, because we have stopped loving ourselves. So we give, but do not receive, and soon run out of energy. This leads to exhaustion and burnout. Sacrifice is a fundamental defense against a loss we have suffered, but never recovered from. So our defense against these feelings is to help others as a form of avoidance, so that we do not have to deal with our own pain.

It is also about our anger toward others for failing us, and the belief we now have to perform their roles. In reality, however, underneath this anger we believe we have failed them. Sacrifice, then, is an attempt to pay off this illusory guilt. This dynamic, which begins in childhood, is at the heart of what creates the family patterns we have carried into our present relationships, and into our way of being in the world. In fact, most sacrifice is generated out of family patterns. One may be in sacrifice to try to save the family (the martyr role). But this never helps, because we are really using the family to hold ourselves back. This type of ‘untrue helping’ becomes a form of enabling, which is based on a secret fear of the one(s) being helped getting better. That would mean the ‘untrue helper; would also then be called to move forward. So sacrifice becomes a defense against intimacy and against taking the next step.

When you are in sacrifice, you are ‘in fusion’ with another, not knowing the boundaries between yourself and the ones to whom you are enslaved. Within this fused relationship, you either place yourself above the other - in the sense that you feel you have to carry them - or you put yourself below them, in that you feel you have to give up your own life in order to receive love and approval. In either case, anyone in sacrifice is afraid of having an equal relationship and afraid of intimacy. Whether you are seemingly above or below the other, there is a hidden judgment of the person you are sacrificing for. If you see yourself above the other, you feel superior; if you see yourself below them, you feel morally superior. So sacrifice actually feeds competition, which in turn, generates divisiveness, separation and fear.

Using the card
If you receive this card today, you are being asked to examine areas where you are not receiving, as this is a sure sign you are in sacrifice in some way. The insidiousness of sacrifice makes everything difficult and burdensome, partly because, typically, we sacrifice out of our love for another, while devaluing ourselves. This makes us less attractive in both our own and the other’s eyes.

Who is it you are in sacrifice to? What burden are you carrying that does not belong to you and which you are using as a form of avoidance, especially of intimacy? Sacrifice is a way of avoiding the contact which leads to success. In sacrifice you can work very hard and do lots of things, but, because you don’t give yourself, you don’t succeed. Today, you are asked to be true to yourself. As Polonius says in Shakespeare's Hamlet, ‘To thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man.’ As you free yourself, you will free others. As you live truly, others, too, can then live truly and authentically.

Forgiveness (From Healing Suite)

KEY CONCEPTS:

Resolving hidden guilt in oneself; apologizing for mistaken blame; reconnecting; true understanding; giving forth

This is another core healing principle: forgiveness is really self-forgiveness. If the world is simply a reflection of your own mind, if all blame and judgment are projections of your own guilt and self-attack, then forgiveness of others releases both the others and the subconscious guilt within you. Guilt is really a form of arrogance which makes life all about oneself, rather than just learning the lesson, correcting the mistake and moving on. Forgiveness puts things in perspective and brings back innocence. It returns life to ease, flow and confidence.

Forgiveness is not a form of winning the competition while another fails. Nor is it about condescension or superiority. It is not designing to grant the other mercy - which is really superiority (hidden judgment and overcompensation for guilt and feelings of inadequacy) and competition (distraction from success and fear of the next step). We fear forgiveness because we feel that we would be locked into a position of sacrifice or wounding. We feel that we are justified in our grievance or anger and that it would be stupid to give this up. Yet grievances are never about what someone else has done but in fact are about what we have not forgiven ourselves for. We are actually holding our past against them. No situation can fail unless we fail to give something. Forgiveness is simply reconnection. It is an apology for blaming others for ‘crimes’ you thought that you had committed. Forgiveness is the realization that it was all just a mistake, and true understanding and a new healed situation appear. In forgiveness you finally get to give what was not given in the past. This heals you and the one being judged.

One of the core dynamics of any problem is broken bonding, or separation. Guilt is the superglue of life which keeps us stuck in painful patterns and situations, while forgiveness is the solvent which releases us not only from our guilt, but also from our withdrawal, unworthiness and sacrifice, and from the feelings of deadness, exhaustion, difficulty, being stuck, valuelessness and overcompensation. As we are released from that which separates us, we are reconnected and the problem is solved.

Using the card
If you receive this card today, understand that it is important to motivate yourself to forgive, because what you don’t forgive in any one person, you don’t forgive in everyone, including yourself. This means that, without forgiveness, you will create distance - even with those you love the most. The power to change your situation is in your hands. Forgiveness is a choice which creates a new giving forth and a new receiving. Release your grievances so the hidden self-attack and lack of freedom will be released. If done by oneself, forgiveness is a difficult lesson, and self-forgiveness can be even harder. But you can ask your Higher Mind for help in accomplishing the forgiveness.

While there are many beautiful forgiveness exercises, you could just as easily let it be done by grace. Realize that if you are blaming yourself or others the truth is being blurred. Choose the truth. Ask to know it. Ask for the forgiveness to occur. This may happen layer by layer, or it may occur all at once. In other words, you can ask for a miracle and the whole situation can be seen in a new light.

Innocence (From Gift Suite)

KEY CONCEPTS:

The healing recognition of your own and other’ spirituality and perfection

The grace of innocence heals the illusion of guilt, thus removing the key cause of suffering and cruelty from the world. Where there is innocence, people act innocently, responsively and with awareness. This card, like the other Grace cards, can literally bring Heaven to earth, because, in recognizing our own innocence, we see others’ innocence. Thus we see all troubles merely as calls for help and love. Innocence cleanses and refreshes the world. Through it, we allow ourselves both to receive and to give, knowing that life is full of love, abundance and beauty.

Using the card
If you receive this card today, you are asked to look at yourself through God’s eyes (whatever you understand Him to be). God, being perfect, sees only our Spirit and perfection, yet allows our Higher Mind to help correct and heal our mistakes. You are asked to let yourself be freed by innocence today, and to let those around you be freed by it also. The grace of innocence is trying to come to you today, if only you would let it… to free yourself and the world from judgment and suffering. Innocence is the way through.

Problem
Sacrifice
(From Relationship Suite)
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The Way Through
Forgiveness
(From Healing Suite)
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Gift
Innocence
(From Gift Suite)
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